You used to finish each other’s sentences. Now you can barely finish a conversation without it turning into a fight, or worse… silence.
Maybe you’re roommates who co-parent well but forgot how to be lovers. Maybe one of you crossed a line and you’re both wondering if trust can ever be rebuilt. Maybe you love each other but can’t remember the last time you felt truly connected.
Marriage and couples therapy isn’t about assigning blame or sitting through awkward silence while someone nods sympathetically. It’s about figuring out what actually broke the connection, and learning how to restore it.
You're in the same house but it feels like you're miles apart. You go through the motions but the spark is gone.
Different topic, same pattern. One of you shuts down, the other pursues. Or you both explode. Nothing ever gets resolved.
One of you had an affair (emotional or physical). The wound is raw and you're wondering: Can we come back from this?
You're great at managing schedules and kids, but intimacy and connection? That feels like a distant memory.
You swore you'd never repeat their patterns. But here you are, doing exactly what you watched them do.
Some days you're ready to fight for the relationship. Other days you fantasize about starting over with someone else, or alone.
It’s not too late. But you need to stop doing the same things and expecting different results.
Couples therapy is an active, collaborative process where you both learn new ways of relating to each other.
Session 1-2: Assessment & Understanding the Pattern
We’ll explore what brought you to therapy, what you’ve tried before, and what’s not working. I’ll help you identify the core conflict pattern; it’s usually not what you think. By the end of session 2, you’ll have clarity on what we’re actually working on.
Session 3-6: Understanding the Neurobiology of Your Conflict
I’ll explain what’s happening in your brains and nervous systems when you fight. Why one of you shuts down (it’s not because they don’t care). Why the other pursues (it’s not to be controlling). Understanding the “why” reduces blame and opens space for change.
Session 7-12: Interrupting Patterns & Building New Skills
This is where transformation happens. We practice new communication strategies IN SESSION (not just as homework you’ll ignore). You’ll learn how to de-escalate conflicts, express needs clearly, and respond to your partner in ways that create safety instead of defensiveness.
Session 13-20: Deepening Connection & Addressing Core Issues
Once communication improves, we go deeper: generational patterns (“I’m doing what my dad did”), unspoken resentments, unmet needs, and how to create the relationship you actually want, not just survive the one you have.
Session 20+: Maintenance & Integration
As things improve, we shift to less frequent sessions, every other week, then monthly check-ins. The goal isn’t to keep you in therapy forever; it’s to give you the tools to navigate conflicts on your own.
My job isn’t to figure out who’s “right” or “wrong.” It’s to help you both feel heard and understood. I create a space where both partners can be vulnerable without fear of judgment.
I explain the neurobiology of conflict, why your brain goes into fight-or-flight, why one of you shuts down while the other pursues, and how to interrupt the cycle.
I don’t just give you “communication homework” you’ll ignore. We role-play difficult conversations in session. You practice expressing needs, active listening, and de-escalation WITH ME as your guide.
Most couples see meaningful progress within 3-6 months (12-24 sessions). Some concerns resolve faster, others take longer. We’ll check in regularly to assess progress.
Let’s talk for 15 minutes (free). I’ll tell you honestly whether I think I can help with what you’re facing, and if not, I’ll point you toward resources that can.
I offer Individual Relationship Therapy. You come alone, but we work on the relationship. Many clients find that when they shift how they show up, their partner becomes more open to joining later. And if they never join? You’ll still gain valuable insights and tools.
That’s okay. Therapy can help you figure that out with clarity and compassion. Some couples use therapy to decide whether to stay or go, and that’s a valid goal.
Yes. Some couples come to therapy after separating to see if reconciliation is possible. Others come to navigate a conscious uncoupling with respect and clarity. Both are valid reasons to seek support.
Infidelity recovery is one of my specializations. Rebuilding trust after betrayal is hard, but it’s possible if both partners are willing to do the work. I’ll help the betrayed partner process the trauma and help the partner who strayed understand the impact and rebuild trustworthiness.
Yes! I provide secure online therapy throughout Illinois. Many clients prefer online sessions for convenience and flexibility.
I accept Blue Cross Blue Shield, Aetna, United Healthcare, Cigna, and other major insurers. Contact me to verify your specific plan coverage.
in-person and online options throughout Illinois.
Friday 10 AM – 8 PM
Saturday 9 AM – 3 PM
1525 East 53rd Street
Suite 433
Chicago, IL 60615
Parking: Paid parking available behind Akira and paid street parking.
Public Transit: CTA and Metra
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday & Thursday
11 AM – 8 PM
125 South Wacker Drive
Suite 308
Chicago, IL 60606
Parking: Paid street parking or multiple public garages..
Public Transit: CTA & Metra.
Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, identity questions, trauma recovery, or generational patterns you’re ready to break, I’m here to help. Fill out the form, and I will reach out to you as soon as I can.
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